I get asked about this a fair amount. You might not like the answer, but here goes:
Give me a $100 bill. You have 24 hours to talk to the person you’re having drama with. If after 24 hours you’ve talked to her, I’ll give you your $100 back. If you haven’t, I get to keep it.
That’s probably all that needs to happen. You don’t actually need my advice, you just need a little incentive.