Yesterday a male athlete told me that he gained ten pounds of muscle, going from 140lbs to 150lbs (those numbers are made up). He seemed proud of the accomplishment, probably because he thought it made him look better.
A female athlete overheard him though. She didn’t care about the muscle he gained, she just heard what the numbers were. Knowing she weighed more than him, she only judged herself.
He, in turn, didn’t realize the effect his words had, because it didn’t cross his mind what she might weigh.
Other people aren’t spending much time thinking about how you look. They’re probably not thinking about you much at all, in fact.
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